The truth about fear, at least at the psychological level, is that the thing that we fear the most we tend to attract to ourselves by our behavior as it relates to the thing we fear. This sounds like the exact opposite of what we've been taught about the evolution of our species. Think about it for a moment, and you may discover the truth that is within this psychological state. You see, the longer your mind focuses on a particular thing, the more the subconscious arranges things for that thing to come to past. So, we have to be very carful about what we spend our time focusing on. For example: If you have a fear of attracting a "crazy" mate, you may discover that the people you've been dating, turned out to have a "crazy" streak in their personality. The focus is on the fear and not on the positive traits we all desire in a mate.
Fear is a very destructive state of emotion. What is it that we so fear that keeps us from becoming one with our fellow man? Do we fear the differences between us? What are those differences? Are we so different? In future post, we will try to disect and answer these and other questions, in an attempt to bridge and eradicate some of these fears. I will be inviting some fellow "thinkers" that I have come to respect a great deal, to join me in this discussion. Please stay tuned...
I think there are two separate thoughts being advanced here and I don't think "fear" applies to both of them. We do attract that which we want to avoid because the only way to avoid a thing is to study it more closely. There is no other way, but that is what we get for living negative lives. And when you look at something you will move towards it. Try it the next time you are driving along the highway and a semi-truck pulls up alongside you. First make sure there is an empty lane between you and the truck and them focus on the truck. You will soon find that you hands will begin steering your vehicle towards the truck. I prefer to use avoidance instead to discuss this situation.
ReplyDeleteTrue fear is the product of alienation. We do not fear what is different from us but fear is attached to difference because of alienation. To understand this take a look at two teams on the soccer field. Each team has offensive and defensive players. Even though these two types of players are different they cooperate for the good of the team. But when a defensive sets his sights on an offensive player from the other side he suddenly gets the urge to attack that player. There is no fear in that situation because there is no fear to life.
I don't have this all figured but in life our alienation has resulted in situations that have had negative consequences so that we have come to associate difference with fear. It is also possible that the alienation may have directly caused the fear. Even so environment has a great influence. I remember meeting two physicians in a sky box at Fedex Field for a Redskins game. One was from India and the other from Pakistan. One made the insightful observation that even though they were colleagues here in the US, if they were back on the Indian sub-subcontinent they would treat each other as if they were enemies.
That helped me see the irrationality of fear. Alienation makes us believe that there is the possibility that your buddy could be you enemy. I think this also comes out in the new series V. You cannot trust anyone when you think not everyone belongs.